Post by Christine on Mar 12, 2018 19:06:41 GMT -5
Thanks to everyone who at least got where I was coming from, even if it was pointless.
I've been thinking about the subject on and off for the last couple of days, mostly trying to figure out why I have such an aversion to this sort of thing when other people seem not to.
To note, I went back and re-read the threads I mentioned, and there actually was some more substantive conversation in a couple of them -- it wasn't all hardee-har-har stoopit people, so my bad there.
Also, I have since recalled a few stupid things I've laughed at. E.g., when a guy called the cops to report that his drugs had been stolen. Thieves taking selfies that pinpoint their location. Stuff like that.
So, I think maybe the issue is that when something is really humiliating, it's not funny to me. Instead of, like Cass, wondering how the guy could have found his way inside an organ (a perfectly reasonable thing to wonder), I imagine how humiliated he must feel. Which is not even necessarily true. Just because I would be fatally mortified doesn't mean these other people are.
There's this story my parents tell about me, when I was a toddler and they often took us down the waterway close to our house in Miami. My dad and brother would fish, we'd take a picnic and whatnot. One day I saw a bird on the bank, pecking at the eye of a dead fish. Peck, peck, peck. Mom says every time the bird pecked, I said, "Ow." Peck. Peck. Peck. Ow. Ow. Ow. I guess that's still how my brain works. And of course, the dead fish didn't feel a damn thing, soooo...
Re: the OP, I like what the man said. He's going to "see a shrink and don't drink." Good on him. I hope he gets the help he needs and can laugh about this very soon. When he laughs, I'll laugh with him.
I've been thinking about the subject on and off for the last couple of days, mostly trying to figure out why I have such an aversion to this sort of thing when other people seem not to.
To note, I went back and re-read the threads I mentioned, and there actually was some more substantive conversation in a couple of them -- it wasn't all hardee-har-har stoopit people, so my bad there.
Also, I have since recalled a few stupid things I've laughed at. E.g., when a guy called the cops to report that his drugs had been stolen. Thieves taking selfies that pinpoint their location. Stuff like that.
So, I think maybe the issue is that when something is really humiliating, it's not funny to me. Instead of, like Cass, wondering how the guy could have found his way inside an organ (a perfectly reasonable thing to wonder), I imagine how humiliated he must feel. Which is not even necessarily true. Just because I would be fatally mortified doesn't mean these other people are.
There's this story my parents tell about me, when I was a toddler and they often took us down the waterway close to our house in Miami. My dad and brother would fish, we'd take a picnic and whatnot. One day I saw a bird on the bank, pecking at the eye of a dead fish. Peck, peck, peck. Mom says every time the bird pecked, I said, "Ow." Peck. Peck. Peck. Ow. Ow. Ow. I guess that's still how my brain works. And of course, the dead fish didn't feel a damn thing, soooo...
Re: the OP, I like what the man said. He's going to "see a shrink and don't drink." Good on him. I hope he gets the help he needs and can laugh about this very soon. When he laughs, I'll laugh with him.