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Post by robeiae on Aug 17, 2018 9:27:31 GMT -5
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Post by markesq on Aug 17, 2018 9:38:50 GMT -5
... or not start over. A world without religion (or at least Catholicism) would be a world with a little less self-righteousness, greed, and prejudice in it.
Ah, such wishful thinking.
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Post by Deleted on Aug 17, 2018 10:03:12 GMT -5
It's beyond horrible.
To Mark's point -- I get what you're saying, completely. But to be fair, and I say this as an atheist, the Catholic church and religious institutions are not alone in covering up and/or rationalizing horrifying behavior to shield themselves. Look at all of the schools that have done so, for example. And look at what the Republican party has been doing with regard to, e.g., Roy Moore, Donald Trump and his administration...
There is a clear lesson here to institutions/organizations/political parties, if they care to listen: cover up or rationalize bad behavior to your peril. In the short term, you might succeed in temporarily protecting the good name of your institution. But in the long term, it will out -- and when it does, the good name of your institution that you care so much about will be tarnished a hundredfold, not just by the bad behavior, but by the institution's behavior in covering it up. Call it out and condemn it, boot the offenders outside your walls to wail and gnash their teeth, and it's a short term wound to your institution. Stuff the bodies in the closet, and sooner or later everyone will smell it, and the stink will be irradicable. Even taking the victims and morality aside -- the best way to protect your institution is to do the right thing.
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Human nature being what it is, every institution will have some bad eggs (though when they start to pile up in vast quantities...). The test of the institution, IMO, is how it deals with bad eggs when it discovers them, what lengths it goes to in the attempt to root them out and eliminate them. Does it put the mere superficial name of the institution first, or does it uphold the actual principles the institution is supposed to stand for?
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Post by markesq on Aug 17, 2018 10:25:00 GMT -5
I agree Cass, absolutely, many institutions are guilty of that kind of thing. I just think the Catholic Church has been the worst of them. But I also think (and I know this could be its own thread) many religions inherently preach and promote prejudice and bigotry. Me no likey.
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Post by Deleted on Aug 17, 2018 10:42:28 GMT -5
I agree Cass, absolutely, many institutions are guilty of that kind of thing. I just think the Catholic Church has been the worst of them. But I also think (and I know this could be its own thread) many religions inherently preach and promote prejudice and bigotry. Me no likey. One issue, I think, is that the Catholic church demands celibacy from its priests. This is fine for men with either a low sex drive or loads of self-control, but not so fine for most people. Two very close family friends, deeply religious and moral men, started on the path to priesthood. (I should note that my family is very Catholic, as are most of my hometown connections.) These men had a strong desire to serve the church. But what ultimately stood in their way was love. Both are married now with (big!) families. They are still fervent Catholics and active leaders in their churches. They gave up the church with deep regret, even as they looked forward to their lives with their wives and families. Had the Catholic church allowed their priests to marry, they both would almost certainly be priests today. So taking aside the men whose low sex drive or extreme self-control allows them to eschew sexual contact -- who can actually live up to the Church's demand for celibacy -- and what else do you have left? Men whose desires couldn't be fulfilled by marriage in the first place--e.g., those attracted to children. And alas, their roles in the church give them easy access to victims. Of course such men are a minority in the church. I don't need c.e. or Vince to tell me that. I've known a lot of priests, and most of them are good men whom I believe do their best to live up to what the church asks of them. But that minority -- I'm convinced that the celibacy requirement has served to foster them. Honestly, I think the protestants have this one right -- it is better to let priests marry.
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Post by celawson on Aug 17, 2018 11:56:27 GMT -5
As people here might understand, this is causing me a lot of pain and cognitive dissonance, as it has for years. These latest revelations, well, the only way forward I can see is a huge purge and a lot of jail time, and a serious look at allowing priests to marry. Heck, they should have allowed already married men to become priests YEARS ago. I do think there's a difference between an already married man becoming a priest, and a priest dating and courting and finding a wife. But really, this is unabashed, true evil.
Yes it was perpetrated by a small percentage of clergy in looking at the overall numbers. And the truths of the teachings of the Church, and the good it does, still matter to the faithful and those it helps. So no, of course I don't want to obliterate the entire Catholic universal church. After all, Mark, what tenets of the Catholic faith say this is ok or promotes this? Quite the opposite, as you well know. But this purge must be swift and angry and uncompromising and broad and about a million times more dramatic than Jesus' cleansing of the temple, while at the same time taking other concrete steps (like what Cass talked about) to prevent it ever happening again.
Can't say more right now, gotta run.
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Post by markesq on Aug 17, 2018 12:16:43 GMT -5
You're quite right, c.e., I wasn't suggesting the Catholic Church preached that child molestation was OK. I was thinking about the misogyny, the homophobia, etc.
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Post by robeiae on Aug 17, 2018 13:18:06 GMT -5
It's true that many other institutions/orgs cover up bad stuff or otherwise protect members when they do bad stuff.
But few (none?) of these others have existed for as long as the Catholic Church. Few have the resources of the Catholic Church. And few have a leadership who pretends to exercise moral authority over the world, granted exclusively to it by God.
The new Pope has gotten a lot of love for a lot of the things he's said and done, with regard to things going on in the world, but imo all of that praise is misplaced since the Catholic Church has been covering up what amounts to systemic problems of child abuse by its priesthood for decades, if not centuries.
Faith and dogma need to be separated from this issue, in my view. The Faithful aren't responsible for the transgressions of the priesthood and indeed, have themselves been used repeatedly by the priesthood. I'm sure most priests are more or less fine people, but right now they're connected to a grotesque (imo) bureaucracy that is culpable at every level, whose crimes have only been touched on, when it comes to this kind of abuse.
Again, this report is about ONE STATE in JUST THE USA in a limited period of time and only covers reported transgressions. Many historians of crime argue that the dark figure for a given crime is as much as five times the reported figure. Maybe that's too high of an estimate, but the reported numbers are far lower than the actual numbers, that much is certain I think.
I'm talking big numbers here and I think it's time that people start to realize just how big. "It's only a small number of priests" doesn't cut it anymore, imo. The numbers are saying that's bs. Remember, the US isn't even a Catholic nation. Imagine what these numbers might be in those nations that are, where the political and civil authorities are all Catholic, themselves, and beholden to the Church.
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Post by Deleted on Aug 17, 2018 13:50:00 GMT -5
I didn't mean that the numbers of abused people are small or that it isn't a serious, endemic problem that's been going on for centuries. I also did not mean, at all, to pooh-pooh that the Catholic church has inexcusably covered it up and allowed it to continue. I agree with everything you've said, fwiw.
All I meant is that taken as a whole, all of the priests in existence versus the number of priests who are child molesters, it's a relatively small percentage who are molesters. But that doesn't make anything okay -- it's obviously much, much too large a percentage (I've mused over some reasons that might be)--indeed, any percentage is too large-- and obviously the Catholic church and its leaders are complicit, horrifically so, in having allowed them not only to go unpunished but also to continue abusing. And yes, there must be consequences for that.
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Post by celawson on Aug 17, 2018 14:15:50 GMT -5
When I said it’s only a small percentage, I did not mean it’s a small number or that the consequences to the victims are small. I only meant that the greater percentage of priests are good men trying to do God’s work and are serving their people well. That’s one reason I do not think the answer here is to destroy the entire Church and start over.
Just to clarify.
IMO, ONE episode of abuse by a priest is a large number.
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Post by robeiae on Aug 17, 2018 14:37:19 GMT -5
The problem for me, ce,is that many of those priests trying to good work and otherwise actually doing good work are either complicit in this stuff (they've rationalized such complicity) or have been willfully blind to it. And maybe that would be excusable to some extent (the second group, anyway) if it wasn't for the moral authority they have assumed, both individually and for the Church as a whole.
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Post by michaelw on Aug 17, 2018 19:16:40 GMT -5
One issue, I think, is that the Catholic church demands celibacy from its priests. This is fine for men with either a low sex drive or loads of self-control, but not so fine for most people. Two very close family friends, deeply religious and moral men, started on the path to priesthood. (I should note that my family is very Catholic, as are most of my hometown connections.) These men had a strong desire to serve the church. But what ultimately stood in their way was love. Both are married now with (big!) families. They are still fervent Catholics and active leaders in their churches. They gave up the church with deep regret, even as they looked forward to their lives with their wives and families. Had the Catholic church allowed their priests to marry, they both would almost certainly be priests today. So taking aside the men whose low sex drive or extreme self-control allows them to eschew sexual contact -- who can actually live up to the Church's demand for celibacy -- and what else do you have left? Men whose desires couldn't be fulfilled by marriage in the first place--e.g., those attracted to children. And alas, their roles in the church give them easy access to victims. Of course such men are a minority in the church. I don't need c.e. or Vince to tell me that. I've known a lot of priests, and most of them are good men whom I believe do their best to live up to what the church asks of them. But that minority -- I'm convinced that the celibacy requirement has served to foster them. Honestly, I think the protestants have this one right -- it is better to let priests marry. Allowing priests to marry might be a smart move, but I dunno how much that would really strike at the core issue here (the abusiveness). After all, people who are married and people who abuse children aren't mutually exclusive categories. What I would like to see first and foremost is the Church stop protecting people they know are guilty of this stuff. Such clergymen shouldn't be moved around from parish to parish, where new victims are always available. And people who have been involved in making those decisions to sweep things under the rug need to be dealt with, as well. Do that first, then re-thinking celibacy might be an option. (Or maybe they can all just become become Buddhist monks. They seem to have a better track record w/ celibacy, for whatever reasons.)
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Post by Deleted on Aug 17, 2018 19:44:25 GMT -5
Oh, I agree with all of that, Michael. Of course, the chief problem is that they've been covering for abusers. What I was getting at with the marriage thing is this:the church is excluding a lot of good men who might otherwise go into the priesthood. That leaves lots of spots to be filled by less good men. Of course it wouldn't eliminate the problem. But it might make it a touch less endemic. Why is it the Catholic Church seems to have more of this particular issue than other churches, cover up aside? I think it might have something to do with them choosing from a narrower pool--a pool of men who are willing to go without an adult relationship that most find really important. That pool includes some good people. It also may include an unusually high proportion of people who maybe shouldn't be in such a position of trust. ETA: The two family friends I mentioned earlier -- I think their vocation was real, and that they would have made good, caring priests. They were genuinely torn, each of them, between a woman they'd come to love and their desire to be priests. One in particular dragged it out for a while (he's lucky she waited--on the other hand, he was ridiculously good-looking! And she loved him too). If I know two such men, surely there are bunches of others. (Though, that said, my relatives and parents' friends were pretty devout, so it's possible they are not representative.) Why not let them be priests, as other churches do? ETA: I have to admit, when I was 14 and ridiculously-good-looking family friend was 21, I had a terrible crush on him! (he was the son of my parents' close friends.) Just as well he was not a teen molester.
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Post by gaild on Aug 18, 2018 4:38:17 GMT -5
If it were up to me, I would most certainly hold the church accountable for the cover-ups and I would do it to the fullest extent possible. Here's why:
My middle daughter was sexually molested by an old man who was beloved by our entire community. When she finally plucked up the courage to tell me, we reported it to the police and he was arrested. Nobody believed it. Our house was tagged, egged, dog-poohed every day for months. We had vicious anonymous calls until we changed our number and my daughters could not play outside, even in our backyard. The old man pleaded not-guilty, of course, so my daughter was set to testify against him in court. (No camera in those days.) Halfway through the trial, faced with the overwhelming evidence against him, the old bastard changed his plea to guilty and my daughter did not have to testify. There was absolute silence from the community. No apologies. Nothing. My point here is this: Firstly, priests are held in such high esteem that I think no one wants to believe that they could do wrong. Secondly, pedophiles are such goddamn good actors they'd fool God into believing they're innocent. So I can understand if one or two complaints against priests were denied. But so many complaints? For so long? Inexcusable!
Pedophile are drawn to jobs (not vocations, in this instance) where they can have uncontrolled access to children. This has been known for many decades. I don't believe the Catholic church was not fully aware of it. Firstly, why are they not doing a better job of screening candidates for the priesthood? (Okay, I know this isn't easy, but still.) Secondly, what happens now? Do they take these sick bastards and ship them off to places like Africa, where the population is still relatively naive? When will the church see this as an egregious crime and not merely a sin?
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Post by Deleted on Aug 18, 2018 9:42:01 GMT -5
That's horrifying, Gail. I'm so sorry your daughter and your family went through that.
I agree with everything you say.
There is some terrible irony that the church for many years condemned "sins" that hurt no one (e.g. consensual sexual relationships, birth control, divorce) far more strongly than it did these crimes.
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